Result: Your attachment style is Anxious
We hope that your result brings you some insight, and also some relief.
Anxious Attachment can change the way we see ourselves, and the way we show up in our relationships. But this doesn't have to be forever.
Healing and security is absolutely possible for you, and one of the first steps is to understand the root cause.
Anxious attachment does not exist without an origin. We can come to understand how it was formed in our lives. And once we know what we are dealing with we can learn how to build a secure attachment style. This is called an earned secure attachment and it is a life changing experience.
The first thing to understand is that anxious attachment is formed due to a combination of psychology and biology.
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Psychology teaches us that attachment styles are often formed in childhood, based on our formative relationships, primarily with parents and caregivers.
It also teaches us that previous romantic relationships can affect our attachment style, even if our early relationships were healthy.
One exercise you can do to inform your style is to review your past relationships, with parents and partners, and see if there are common themes and patterns.
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The biology helps us understand that our attachment style is linked physically as well. Fear, anxiety, and trauma put stress on the body and can lead to prolonged release of cortisol, which can reconfigure our stress response to be more active over time.
This elevated stress response can affect our wellbeing and general health, causing inflammation and a suppressed immune function.
So, no— nothing is wrong with you, and you certainly aren’t alone.
In fact, approximately 40% of the United States population is thought to have an insecure attachment style, half of them anxious.
More information on the Love School Program
Healing from anxious attachment can be life-changing. And it is well worth the journey. But that journey can feel overwhelming when you’re on your own. It takes time, comfort, learning, and introspection. You can dive into books like Mother Hunger by Kelly McDaniel to understand its origins, or explore tools like Alain De Botton’s work on managing emotions. And you can learn how to navigate relationship dynamics through Harville Hendrix’s work. These are valuable resources that will also teach you about self-soothing, healthy relationship dynamics, and building trust.
However, piecing it all together this way can take years. But it doesn’t have to- and you don’t have to do this work alone. When you join Love Addicts, you'll follow a clear, step-by-step process for healing and growth with the support and guidance you need along the way. And it won’t take you years- the full Love School anxious attachement course takes as little as 3 months. But you can begin to feel the impact even sooner than that.
In a recent study of the Love School community, 85% of participating members reported a significant decrease in their relationship anxiety in as little as two weeks.