Have you ever thought “why can’t I love?”
Do you feel like relationships are not for you, and that you can’t fall in love?
On paper, you have an amazing life. You’re great at most of the things you do, and you have awesome interests.
Yet, everytime you go to bed, there’s an emptiness inside of you that you just can’t explain.
Your love goes so deep. You care so much about the people in your life. So why can’t you fall in love?
You are not alone.
What you’re experiencing is quite common. In fact, there are almost 1 in 3 people who experience this feeling in their life.
It is a way of being that we learned from our early childhood, so it’s not really our fault. Yet, we often feel guilty about it.
It causes us to be very self-reliant, to want our own space, and to have a hard time asking others for help.
And when someone comes close? We feel pressured, like they want something from us. It only prolongs our need to be alone.
The good news?
You can overcome this feeling.
Let me know if this sounds familiar.
Of course, only you know yourself. Whatever I say below is only a tool for you to self-reflect.
You are a strong, resilient, and independent person. You’re athletic, great at your job, and highly intelligent.
But, you often have this lingering feeling of emptiness.
In relationships, people have fallen in love with you. But you struggle to stay in love with them. You might have had feelings in the beginning, but as time goes by and things start to get close, you feel the need to pull back.
When you date someone, you don’t need to see them much. In fact, you’d even prefer if they slept in a different bed on some nights (which often surprises them).
You feel uncomfortable with physical touch, and around 1 month into the relationship, your sex drive completely dies out. And the words “I love you”? Very scary to say.
On some days you feel normal, but on others, it feels like a ghost passes through you and you want to be alone. When your partner takes it personally, you feel judged, pressured, unsafe, and frustrated that they’re taking away from your autonomy.
Life passes you by. You desire intimacy and connection, and you know you have love inside of you. But whenever it comes your way, you just don’t feel it.
Relationship after relationship, you feel unhappy, and you feel guilty for hurting them. You wonder, “maybe I’m not meant for this… maybe I’m just meant to be alone.”
You’re not meant to be alone, of course. You’re a healthy, perfectly fine human. What you are experiencing is not you. It’s a coping mechanism called avoidant attachment. And it’s something you can heal.
How do I know all of this?
Because I fell in love with someone like you.
Hi, I’m Nour
I’m the founder of Love Addicts. Three years ago, I fell in love with a woman who changed my life.
Me, being anxious, triggered her quite a lot. Whenever she communicated her need for time alone, I took it personally, and I was hurt.
I knew that she was a wonderful person. So why was this happening? Feeling a lot of love for her, I had a strong desire to understand her.
I went back to school and studied psychology at the University of Amsterdam. I also read every book I could find on love, relationships, and happiness.
I came to know she was struggling with avoidant attachment. But I don’t like to use that word anymore. Let’s say she was “afraid to love” instead, shall we?
I worked with psychologists and developed an entire framework to help you heal, and finally be able to love. It’s built on proven therapy strategies and a safe community.
Because I realized how painful it is, I want to help as many people as I can. So I’ve made it my mission to share my framework with you.
It all begins with a decision. Do you want to spend the rest of your life feeling like this?
Or would you rather embrace your nature, finally feel lovable, and find a happy, fulfilling relationship?
Here’s how to heal…
There’s only one way to heal avoidant attachment: by learning how to connect with your inner self, so you can truly love yourself, and in turn, love someone else.
This also means you have to learn how to be vulnerable and let them into your inner world.
But that feels impossible when it’s one of the scariest things to do, right?
That’s where Afraid to Love comes in. We’ve put together the only system in the world that heals avoidant attachment and helps you connect with the love within.
With Afraid to Love, 3 things will happen:
You will learn to connect with the love that is inside you, and express it to the world.
You will belong to a safe community that you can come to for support in confusing times.
You will have access to psychologists who provides professional feedback when needed.
Everything you need to heal…
After studying thousands of people and relationships affected by avoidant attachment, we’ve distilled three necessary things that are needed to heal:
The right knowledge and beliefs needed to connect with your inner self and communicate it to others.
A safe community of supportive people to come to in times of emotional struggle.
Direct access to psychologists who can help when needed, by providing reliable feedback.
With Afraid to Love, you have all three elements in one place to help you become your most secure self.
What’s Included In Afraid to Love?
In short, everything you need to feel secure, once and for all.
Afraid to Love is like therapy for avoidant attachment in your pocket.
But instead of having 1 psychologist, you have 5. And instead of scheduling an appointment with them once a week, you can send them a message whenever you want, and you can talk to them everyday.
Therapy Courses:
You will receive access to 23+ courses on every aspect of avoidant attachment. These courses will show you exactly what to do to turn your life and your relationship around.
Course breakdown:
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The basics. What is avoidant attachment, where it comes from, how it manifests, and how you can heal it.
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A course that teaches you how to connect to your inner self so you can find your core and learn how to love again.
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A course that helps you dive into the deepest insecurity underlying avoidant attachment: a belief that you don’t matter.
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How to open up to others, be vulnerable, and invite connection into your life.
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How to build and maintain a healthy relationship that lasts and is full of love, intimacy, and desire.
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What constitutes a right partner for you? This course teaches you how to choose someone who can meet your needs.
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This course helps you learn how to put trust in other people, and trust that they care and are capable of helping you.
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Learn how to let down your guards and set necessary boundaries when you need them, so they don’t block you from connection.
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How to develop a healthy and positive self-image that will help you feel comfortable and secure with anyone.
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How to finally discover who you are all over again, so you can re-enter the world with the power to love and connect.
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Understand people with an anxious attachment style so you know how to deal with them without sacrificing your needs.
And much, much more! Including meditations, daily content, session recordings, and new courses each week.
Community and Psychologists:
Once you join Afraid to Love, you will be part of a community of people going through the same pain.
The community contains spaces and a chat where you could post or vent, and is moderated by psychologists who will answer all of your questions.
We also have daily videos to help you learn about avoidant attachment and stay in the mindset of healing and security.
Access To Weekly Therapy Sessions
Each week, our psychologists go live for 1 hour in a group therapy session about anxious attachment.
You can join these sessions for free, and ask questions during each one.
Afraid to Love also comes with the following bonuses:
Free notebook: Join within 30 minutes of completing the quiz and receive a free Love Addicts notebook
Heartbreak Remedy: A proven approach to heal and get over any breakup by coach Omir Dzelilovic
Personal Feedback: You can send your current situation to our psychologist and receive feedback on it
Meet Your Guides On This Journey
Our team consists of certified & licensed psychologists and coaches.
Elisa Monti, PhD
Dr. Elisa Monti is a voice-specialized psychologist with a PhD from The New School for Social Research in New York, with a focus on attachment and childhood trauma.
Hannah Rivera, MSc
Hannah Rivera is a certified psychologist and psychotherapist with a masters in clinical psychology from the Hellenic American University. She’s an expert at CBT and psychodynamic therapy.
LeMeita Smith, PhD
Dr. LeMeita Smith is a mental health director and wellness expert with over 17 years of experience in therapy. She helps people build mental strength, develop life skills, and overcome life crises.
Melissa Maxx, Coach & Author
Melissa is a certified coach and best-selling author specialized in relationships and attachment, and with a focus on mindfulness, self-esteem, and self-worth.
World Class Therapy In A Safe Space
Not only can our psychologists provide you with support through their therapeutic experience, but you can also feel safe that there is nothing you can do or say that will make us think less of you in our community.
Are you ready to stop living in the shadows, connect with yourself, and finally fall in love?
How do I get started?
If Afraid to Love helped you heal and find your fulfilling relationship, what would it be worth to you? Personally, I would give anything for that.
Afraid to Love is very popular. We get around 30 applicants each day. And we have a limited number of therapists and professionals.
For that reason, we only offer Afraid to Love for 3 months. We believe that’s just enough time for you to become secure. (even though, some people start to feel a noticeable difference in the first 2 weeks)
Once all spots are filled, we will open the waiting list.
The cost to join Afraid to Love is only $397 one-time, or 3 monthly payments of $149.
Once the 3 months are over, you can extend your access for $49/month for as long as you need it!
So, do you want to heal your avoidant attachment? Please take the attachment quiz to make sure this is for you. If it is, you will be taken to the sign-up page.
Frequently Asked Questions
Q: How fast will I notice a change?
Most students experience their first shift in how they feel within 2 weeks. However, we believe it takes the full length of the program (3 months) to see a lasting change. It really isn’t all that complicated once you have the right guidance.
Q: What results can I expect?
Afraid to Love is based on proven psychology methods and therapies. After being on Afraid to Love for a few weeks, you will feel the following changes in your life:
You will feel more connected with yourself, and finally understand why you feel this way
You will feel less emptiness inside of you, and more love and happiness
You will learn how to open up to others and communicate your true feelings
You will start loving yourself more, and worrying less about what others think
You will know how to deal with your shadow whenever it comes up (which it will)
You will find it easier to rely on others and seek their support
You will finally be able to experience true connection and love with your partner
Q: Do you offer refunds?
By joining Afraid to Love, you will receive access to our courses, daily sessions, an onboarding call with a therapist, and a lot more, right from the start. As such as do not offer any refunds.
If you are not serious about making the investment into yourself and getting your avoidant attachment handled, then Afraid to Love is probably not for you.
Q: Do you accept insurance?
We do not work directly with insurance companies. However, we can still provide you with a receipt containing the name of our psychologist and their US license number for reimbursement.
What Are People Saying?
What Are Others Saying?
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"This program has probably saved my relationship with a girl I love."
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"I’m 3 weeks out from the FINAL breakup and beginning to heal, feeling strong enough for the first time to not fall back to him. Thank you Nour for this community!"
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"I’m so glad I have this program to fall back on. I’m glad we can all share and grow together. "
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"This website has helped me so much! Every time I log on I understand myself better and realize I’m not crazy!"
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"Listening to the courses has really helped me understand what not to continue doing! It's not easy but I started working on this a week ago and it's helped "us" tremendously!"
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"I didn’t realize how much I really needed it until I sent my first chat last night and it’s already made a positive impact on how I communicate my feelings with my partner! Really grateful for this outlet."
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"I feel really grateful to have discovered this support. Hearing myself within the description felt so relieving because I know that I am on the way to getting the help that I need."
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"Thank you. I'm grateful to have found you and this community. It has literally begun to help within the first day."
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Even just coming here and sharing the front page of the website with my GF to help her see that others experience what I do has helped tremendously.
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"Such a relief to understand why I act the way I do. This website has helped me tremendously!"
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"The courses provided on this website not only has given me new coping mechanisms to overcome my neediness and clinginess, but it also has given me tools to learn how love myself."
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"Nour - great work at explaining your knowledge in a way that is easy to understand and process. Your work is an answered prayer."
Ready to finally heal and become secure?
Join Afraid to Love Today!
Before you join, we want to make sure you actually are avoidantly attached so we know we can help you.
The quiz is free and only takes 1 minute to complete. By the end of it, you will know your attachment style.
If you experience avoidant attachment, you will receive an invite to join.
Begin the quiz to see if you can join!
(Quiz length: 10 questions)